Same-Sex-Attraction

RESOURCES

 


ARTICLES

"Not many parents can sleep very soundly until they know their children are in for the night. My wife and I always asked our big, teenage guys to stop by our room no matter how late it was and let us know they were home. Some of the most beautiful words in the English language to us were: 'Mom, Dad, I'm home.' Isn't it natural to want to 'fix' on where your kids are? Maybe you know a child who is way overdue." 


Excerpt above from: Four Principles to Remember When Your Child is Far from Home
Hutchcraft, R. (2015 December 16). Four Principles to Remember When Your Child is Far from Home. Ron Hutchcraft Ministries
View additional articles by Ron Hutchcraft

Same-Sex Marriage vs. the Real Thing: A Gay Man’s View of the Big Picture   
Mainwaring, D. (2016 September 19). Same-Sex Marriage vs. the Real Thing: A Gay Man's View of the Big Picture. The Public Discourse

Should a Christian go to a gay wedding? 
Fischer, B. (2015 April 22). Should a Christian go to a gay wedding? NE News Now

Homosexuality: A Six Part Series
Six posts with observationson homosexuality, it's cultural acceptance, and the Bible's viewpoint.
White, J.E. ( 2011, July 25) Homosexuality Part 1: Repentance. Church & Culture Blog 

Is Your Church a Safe Place for Those Who Experience Same-Sex Attraction?
Hambrick, B. (2016 May 5) Is your church a safe place for those who experience same-sex attraction? Careleader.org

 

BOOKS 


Many of these titles can be found in the Grace Church Library.

  • Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuan and Angela Yuan
  • If I tell you I am gay, will you still love me? A mother's journey to truth and love by Ann Mobley  
  • Ministering to Gay Teenagers: A Guide for Youth Workers by Shawn Harrison
  • The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert - An English Professor's Journey into Christian Faith by Rosaria Butterfield 
  • Sing Over Me by Dennis Jernigan. 
     "Since 1988 I've been publicly sharing the story of how I walked out of a perceived homosexual identity. Why? Because I remember being a boy wondering if freedom was possible. The church didn't have answers. The world didn't have answers. The gay community just tried to make me give up and accept this as my innate identity. Yet, something deep inside of me kept knocking at the door of my heart saying, 'There must be more. This cannot be your ultimate destiny and identity.' When God met me with the Truth of the transforming power of Jesus Christ, and I began what I call my incredible journey, I began to realize that I'd been lied to by the world and the philosophies of man. After seven years of freedom under my belt, the Lord asked me to begin publicly sharing my story because there were others out there who felt the same as I felt - that there must be more. This book is for those who want to experience God in an intimate, life-changing way, regardless of whether or not they've ever struggled with unwanted same-sex attraction. This is my story, yet really it's the story of redemption found in knowing Jesus Christ intimately."

  • Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach 
    Caleb Kaltenbach was raised by LGBT parents, marched in gay pride parades as a youngster, and experienced firsthand the hatred and bitterness of some Christians toward his family. But then Caleb surprised everyone, including himself, by becoming a Christian…and a pastor. Very few issues in Christianity are as divisive as the acceptance of the LGBT community in the church. As a pastor and as a person with beloved family members living a gay lifestyle, Caleb had to face this issue with courage and grace. Messy Grace shows us that Jesus’s command to “love your neighbor as yourself” doesn’t have an exception clause for a gay “neighbor”—or for that matter, any other “neighbor” we might find it hard to relate to. Jesus was able to love these people and yet still hold on to his beliefs. So can you. Even when it’s messy. Watch a video of Caleb's journey.
  • Space at the Table  by Cab Brad Harper & Drew Stafford Harper    
    Can an evangelical theologian and his gay son overcome the differences in belief that threaten to destroy their relationship? For Brad and Drew Harper, that question wasn't theoretical–and neither was the resounding yes they found after years of struggle. Writing to each other with compassion, grit, and humor, Brad and Drew take us on their journey as parent and child from the churches of middle America to the penthouses of New York's party scenes, through a pastor's–kid childhood and painful conversion therapy to the hard–won victories of their adult relationship. 

  • The Truth Comes Out by Nancy Heche   
  • Ministering to Gay Teenagers by Shawn Harrison    
    When it comes to ministering to gays and lesbians, far too many churches have chosen silence over service, or a reactive stance over proactive involvement.  Congregations must abandon their comfort zone and minister to a group of people who need to experience the love of Jesus in powerful, tangible ways.  With truths drawn from his own personal experiences, youth pastor Shawn Harrison seeks to equip youth workers, parents, and churches in ministering to gay teenagers, their families, and the gay community at-large. The church must not compromise truth, he says, but it should not withhold grace either. How gay students first encounter God personally and communally and how Christians react to them can determine subsequent steps in their faith journey.
    Ministering to Gay Teenagers is filled with wisdom and practical advice on how to respond when a student comes out and how to help the teenager's family through that journey, too. This book will equip leaders and parents with solid answers to the questions families ask.  And it will challenge youth workers and churches to consider how to practically serve and minister to a group of people who seek deep authenticity in love, character, truth, and presence. 
  • The Transparent Life by McKrae Game 
    Secrets destroy families, relationships, and will stop personal growth. Too many people go through life wearing a mask of shame, terrified that if anyone knew the "real me," they would be shunned and alone. Unfortunately many churches and society tell us to keep our struggles, addictions, and pasts hidden. Hiding our problems will not make them go away. There is a way to be free from the shame and guilt. It begins by understanding The Transparent Life. Author McKrae Game is the president and founder of Hope for Wholeness Network. He lives a transparent life and his ministry has counseled countless men and women to begin their own healing by removing the mask and letting people in. This book is for anyone who desires to be free from struggles, addictions, and secrets.
  • Grace does not excuse sin, says Yancey, but it treasures the sinner. True grace is shocking, scandalous. It shakes our conventions with its insistence on getting close to sinners and touching them with mercy and hope. It forgives the unfaithful spouse, the racist, the child abuser. It loves today’s AIDS-ridden addict as much as the tax collector of Jesus’ day. In his most personal and provocative book ever, Yancey offers compelling, true portraits of grace’s life-changing power. He searches for its presence in his own life and in the church. He asks, How can Christians contend graciously with moral issues that threaten all they hold dear? And he challenges us to become living answers to a world that desperately wants to know, What’s So Amazing About Grace? 

 

PRAYER

How to pray for your loved ones.

 

1. FOCUS ON GOD
Rather than focusing on any problems, consider Peter as he walked on the water. Matthew 14:22-23.
Worship God for who He is and thank Him for the perfect plan He has for this person.

2. ASK GOD TO ALLOW YOU TO SEE THIS PERSON THROUGH HIS LOVING EYES.
Consider the parables of the lost coin, the lost sheep, the lost son (Luke 15:1-24). 
God does not look at the outside of a person, but at his heart (1 Samuel 16:7).

3. THANK GOD FOR ALL OF THIS PERSON'S POTENTIALS
Their abilities, skills, gifts and endearing qualitites – Everyone has some!  

"For you formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.  My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them." – Psalm 139:13-16

4. ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU A SPECIFIC PROMISE
A Scripture verse to claim in prayer for this person.   

"If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you."
– John 1:5-7

5. ASK GOD TO BLOCK SATAN'S PLANS.  

 "Simon, Simon! Indeed, Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to ME, strengthen your brethren."
– Luke 22:31-32

6. ASK GOD TO MAKE THIS PERSON OPEN AND RECEPTIVE TO GOD'S VOICE.  

"For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace." – Romans 8:5-6

"Behold, I have been standing at the door and continually knocking...." – Revelation 3:20

7. ASK GOD TO USE ANY MEANS NECESSARY
to dissolve this person's resistance to following the Holy Spirit's guidance.

 "Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought,
but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered
." – Romans 8:26

"The father prunes the branches so that they might produce good fruit." –  John 15:1-4

8. ASK GOD TO BLESS THIS PERSON
in a specific way so that there will be no doubt in this person's mind that the blessing is from God.  

"But, as it is written, 'What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him.'"
– 1 Corinthians 2:9

9. ASK GOD TO MAKE YOU WILLING TO DO WHATEVER HE ASKS
you to do in the life of this person, even when it means doing nothing.

 "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with my eye." – Psalm 32:8

 

VIDEOS 

 

  • Ravi Zacharias speaks on SSA issues in the church.
  •  Francis Chan speaks on homosexuality
  • Pastor Matt Chandler addresses homosexuality from the Bible


  • VOICES

  • Christopher Yuan and his parents have spoken at Grace Church and Cuyahoga Valley Church in recent years.  His website contains excerpts from excellent conferences and speaking engagements.  "I do not look to my sexuality for my identity.  I am a child of God. God does not call us to be heterosexual or homosexual; He calls us to be holy." Read more.
  • Rosaria C. Butterfield was a formerly tenured professor of English and women's studies at Syracuse University, converted to Christ in 1999 in what she describes as "a train wreck." Her memoir The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert  chronicles that difficult journey. Rosaria is married to Kent, a Reformed Presbyterian pastor in North Carolina, and she is also a homeschool mother, author, and speaker.
    Watch her video, Repentance and Renewal

  • Hope for Wholeness  This organization aims to shed light on complication issues of relational brokeness, with special insight into homosexuality and transgenderism.
  • Lead Them Home  An excellent organization offering information and support including a series of podcasts.

 

 

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